tsanfrancisco

I feel like rules to a relationship are absolutely arbitrary. Some rules apply to everyone because they’re just basic functions of right and wrong, like no cheating or no sharing tooth brushes, but some rules are way more discrete and relevant to the two involved. Like you never ever sleep on my pillow because I don’t want your drool on it, or you must let me watch my Jersey Shore episodes every thursday without discussion; you know, just specific shit that you kind of lay down when the time comes. It’s not being bossy, it’s just letting the other person know your likes and dislikes and giving them the same respect. But then there comes things that are left unsaid. I’m not talking about superficial stuff, but subjects more touchy. Sometimes I feel like after being in love with someone for so long that you should already know what he or she likes without having to ask. Certainly I feel as if I do a good job in that department by recognizing signals and appreciating when my boyfriend gives input on how he feels about certain things. I can say I know pretty well what he loves and hates and within our relationship, I base my actions on whether he would approve or not. But it sucks when you feel as if that’s not reciprocated. When you want someone to do (or not do, in some cases) something without having to say it because you feel like they should’ve already read your mind. I know it doesn’t work out that way especially if the other person isn’t as receptive as you are, but still, if they love you this much shouldn’t they know what you want? If they spend this much time with you and hear you out all the time, can’t they take mental notes down of how they should act/not act? I don’t know, I just find it frustrating with being passive-aggressive.. cus I don’t always want to be a meany and pushy and say what’s exactly on my mind because it’s not always the nicest thing. I want that person to already know or find out soon enough so I don’t have to get mad. You know?